40 Days & 40 Nights
Break the habit. Change how you live.
Forty days to break free from habits not serving you. This container offers a complete pattern interrupt: a space to understand what keeps drawing you back, recognize what you need in those moments, and build a new pathway to meet yourself through practice, honest inquiry, and community support.
Limited to 20 participants to support the intimacy of the work and meaningful connection within the group.
Amir Khalighi
“The opposite of addiction isn’t sobriety—it’s connection.”— Johann Hari
The 40 Days & 40 Nights container was built around something we see again and again. Most people already know what they want to change and have often known it for years. What is missing is a way to meet themselves when the old pattern return, alongside the support, accountability, and consistency needed for real change to take place. Just as we don’t consciously heal a cut on our bodies, we simply need to make sure the environment supports and is condusive to healing. The same principle applies to stepping into this container.
The name 40 Days & 40 Nights comes from the forty day periods of retreat and commitment found in many traditions. There is a practical reason for it too. Forty days is long enough to meet your patterns in this enviroment many times over and short enough to commit to fully.
We cannot promise the habit will be gone on January 9. Nobody honest can promise that. What we offers is a safe, supportive environment with the connection and accountability necessary for change to take place. Your level of engagement in that process will determine your success.
The Part of Us That Reaches
There is a part of us that reaches.
When something feels difficult to be with, that part reaches for a substance, a distraction, or a familiar behavior. Often it is looking for some kind of relief. During these forty days, we begin getting to know that part of ourselves, with curiosity instead of judgment.
So we slow down and look at what happens in between.
- What happens before we reach?
- What are we feeling in the body?
- What relief are we seeking?
- What need is asking for our attention?
Together, we explore what draws us toward the habit, what it offers in the moment, and what it costs us. We learn to recognize the feelings, needs, and cues involved, then practice new ways of responding and build habits that support our lives.
Each person’s pattern is different. Part of the work is discovering your own.
This takes two things at once. A real commitment that you keep, and the honesty to look at what happens when you do not. When you slip, you tell the truth about it, learn from it, and come back the next day. No shame, and no starting over from zero.
Is This for You?
Receive the support you need for the change you so deeply desire.
- You recognize a pattern that keeps drawing you back, even when part of you wants something different.
- You want to understand what pulls you toward it, not only push against it.
- You are curious about what you actually need in those moments, and ready to find new ways to meet it.
- You want support in your day-to-day life: a daily rhythm, a rooted commitment, an accountability partner, shared morning practices, and a community walking alongside you.
- You are willing to show up most weekday mornings and take a few minutes every night for forty days, including the days it does not go well.
What this is not
40 Days & 40 Nights is a supportive container held within community, helping you change a habit and move toward the life you deeply desire. It is not addiction treatment, and it is not therapy. If you are working with an addiction or anything that needs clinical care, please keep that support in place. This work can sit alongside it.
Support for the Whole Forty Days
Live Morning Practice
Thirty minutes with Amir every weekday at 6:30 a.m. Pacific Standard Time, so the work becomes part of how you start your day.
Live Group Calls
We open together, meet twice along the way, and close together, from 6:00 to 8:00 p.m. Pacific Standard Time. Time to go deeper, share what you are seeing, and recommit.
Private Session
One private session with Amir, scheduled within the forty days to look closely at your pattern.
Private Community Space
A private space for this group in the Embodied Masculine community portal. Share honestly, ask for support, mark progress, and stay connected between practices and calls.
Accountability Partner
You’ll have an accountability partner walking alongside you throughout the forty days, with weekday check-ins for honest reflection, encouragement, and support. Amir will share the check-in structure during the opening call.
A Contract with Yourself
Commitments matter. Before we begin, you will write and submit a personal contract that names your change and what you will do to support it.
- Be physically active at least four times each week
- Spend one hour in silence in nature each week
- Take a few minutes every night for reflection
- Check in honestly with my accountability partner every weekday
Your words, your terms
You decide what you are changing, what you are willing to give up for it, and the specific actions you will take. Writing it down makes it real. You will come back to it many times over the forty days.
An accountability partner
You will have an accountability partner for honest check-ins and support. Someone who knows what you committed to, asks how it is really going, and makes it harder to go quiet when things get hard.
Accountability partners check in with each other every weekday. Amir will share the structure for these check-ins during the opening call.
Movement and nature
Moving your body and sitting quietly outside give you more ways to come back to yourself, especially on the days the habit is loud.
Be physically active at least four times each week and spend one hour in silence in nature each week.
Morning Practice, Nightly Reflection
The mornings give you practice. The nights give you a place to look honestly at your day.
Thirty Minutes, Every Weekday
Each weekday starts together. Thirty minutes of live practice with Amir, 6:30 to 7:00 a.m. Pacific Standard Time, Monday through Friday, from December 1 through January 8. We take Christmas Day off, and we do meet on New Year's Day.
Through meditation, gratitude, and visualization, you build the capacity to stay present with what you feel, so there is room to choose before you reach. Then you carry that into the rest of your day.
- Sessions28 live mornings
- Not heldWeekends and Christmas Day
- Time6:30 to 7:00 a.m. Pacific Standard Time
- PracticeMeditation, gratitude, and visualization practice
Three to Five Minutes, Every Night
All forty nights, weekends and holidays included. Pause. Feel your body for a moment. Then write a few lines.
- Where did I feel the pull of the habit today, and what was happening?
- How did I respond, and what did I need in that moment?
- What's one thing I'll do tomorrow to support my commitment?
Some nights you will write about a moment you caught. Some nights you will write about one you missed. Both count. This is how you notice, learn, adjust, and return to your commitment the next morning.
The Forty Days, Day by Day
The Four Group Calls
- Tue, Dec 1, 2026Opening Call6:00 to 8:00 p.m. Pacific Standard Time
- Mon, Dec 14, 2026Group Call6:00 to 8:00 p.m. Pacific Standard Time
- Sun, Dec 27, 2026Group Call6:00 to 8:00 p.m. Pacific Standard Time
- Sat, Jan 9, 2027Closing Call6:00 to 8:00 p.m. Pacific Standard Time
All four group calls run two hours, 6:00 to 8:00 p.m. Pacific Standard Time. Morning practices run 6:30 to 7:00 a.m. Pacific Standard Time on weekdays. The four group calls will be recorded. Morning practices will not be recorded.
Join 40 Days & 40 Nights
December 1, 2026 through January 9, 2027. Both options include the same complete program.
Payment Plan
Choosing the payment plan means committing to all three monthly payments, even though the program itself lasts forty days.
Choose the Payment PlanFinancial Support
We don’t want finances to stand between you and the support you need. If you need financial assistance to join, please email [email protected] with the subject line 40 Days 40 Nights Financial Support, and we’ll explore how we might support you in joining the container.
Both options include
- 28 live morning practices with Amir
- Four live group calls, two hours each
- One sixty minute private session with Amir
- Your written contract and nightly reflection practice
- An accountability partner
- A private cohort space in the community portal
Practical Details
What kinds of habits can I work on?
You can bring a habit or recurring behavior you feel you have less choice around than you’d like, or want a healthier relationship with. This might include compulsive phone use, substance use, avoidance, or other patterns that are costing you or affecting others. Choose one primary pattern to focus on during these forty days.
Is this addiction treatment?
No. This is a practice and a community, not treatment or therapy. If you are working with an addiction or anything that needs clinical care, please keep that support in place.
What if I slip?
You may. That’s okay. When it happens, you do not hide it and you do not start over. You look at what happened in your nightly reflection, talk it through with your accountability partner, and recommit the next day. A slip shows you something about your pattern. Use it.
What time are the morning practices and group calls?
Morning practices run 6:30 to 7:00 a.m. Pacific Standard Time, every weekday from December 1 through January 8, except Christmas Day. We do meet on New Year's Day, January 1, 2027.
The four group calls run 6:00 to 8:00 p.m. Pacific Standard Time on Tuesday, December 1, Monday, December 14, Sunday, December 27, and Saturday, January 9.
Will the sessions be recorded?
The four group calls will be recorded. Morning practices will not be recorded.
How does the accountability partner work?
Each participant has an accountability partner for honest check-ins and support throughout the forty days. Accountability partners check in with each other every weekday. Amir will share the structure for these check-ins during the opening call.
How do I schedule my private session with Amir?
Amir will explain how to schedule your included sixty minute private session during the opening call. Your session will take place within the forty day program.
Who can join?
40 Days & 40 Nights is open to men and women.
Why is the group limited to 20 participants?
This work asks for honesty and a willingness to meet parts of yourself you may be used to avoiding. Keeping the container small creates more room to know one another, share openly, and build trust over the forty days. The cap supports meaningful participation in the group calls and a community where people can feel seen and supported.
Will I keep access to the private community space?
Yes. You’ll continue to have access to the cohort’s private community space after the program, so you can stay connected, share your experience, and support one another’s ongoing integration.
What is the refund policy?
All registrations are final. We do not offer refunds.
Is there a payment plan?
Yes. You can pay $695 in full, or make three monthly payments of $232, which comes to $696. Both options include the same complete program.
Choosing the payment plan means committing to all three monthly payments, even though the program itself lasts forty days.
Break the habit. Change how you live.
Forty days. One commitment. Beginning December 1.